Life, death, and beauty

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Think your wedding is the most important day in your life? I think not. This may sound morbid, but I'm excited about my funeral. Not because I want to die, but because funerals are where your loved ones look back and echo "he was such a great person". At funerals people can only say good things about the dead, either out of respect, or out of fear of offending the bereaved. Funerals are the ultimate reflection of who you were: the more people show up and cry, the higher the value of your life. At least that's how I see it.

But really, how do we measure the value of each life? And don't give me that "all life is equal" crap. That's just not true. Some people were born with the skills to reach the top, while most people find solace in mediocrity. Some people become presidents, CEO's, actors, astrophysicists, and some people become waiters, construction workers, vendors, or call center agents. You can bet more people will grieve at the first list of people's funerals, with people remarking how "there will never be another" or how the deceased's "contributions to society will never be forgotten". You won't hear a eulogy like that for a janitor.

Which leads me to my main point of contention. What makes AJ Perez's death so newsworthy? Sure, he was way too young to die. He was a good kid. It's sad. It's tragic. But are the daily news updates really necessary? A lot of young, good people die unexpectedly every day. Well, I guess the difference is, they don't have the same fresh, innocent, well-proportioned face, and they don't usually have shows on one of the country's leading TV networks. My point is, AJ Perez wasn't special simply because he had a great personality, or that he had great potential as an actor. Even if those were true, at the heart of it all, AJ Perez was special because he looked good. That was what made him a star in the first place.

This unfortunate event has led me to wonder: just how much do people value physical appearance? Do people think less of us if we aren't aesthetically pleasing? Are we perceived as less intelligent or less capable simply because we don't look the part? And if we were more attractive, would we have better chances? If AJ's death is any indication, we probably would. He's practically a national hero, the way his death is being covered by the media.

I don't think it's wrong to judge people based on how they look. Hell, I do it all the time. It's just amazing to see just how much of our judgment is based on physical appearance, where it could mean the difference between a common high school kid and a well-loved actor. Sure, AJ may have been talented, and from what I hear on the news, was a very good-natured young man. But would the country have given him the same chance if his face was crooked?

Should we condemn beautiful people and rally to raise awareness for ugly people's rights? No, of course not. It's human nature to appreciate beauty. It may not be fair, but very few things in life are fair anyway. I guess it's just something we all have to deal with. So don't judge me if you see me lined up at Watson's holding a basket full of personal care products.